Are you really sure you really know?

Sometimes we have an idea about something and we think that this thought is so true that it's irrefutable. We think this thought it's the reality and that's why the other person or other people also think the same about it. In other words, we create a "truism". That thought is so true that you assume the other person thinks the exact same thing about it. The problem is, it can be tricky if we are stuck in this "reality" if that is not in fact reality, don't you agree? If we are wrong? Have you ever thought about it? That you can be wrong? :D

Sometimes we think we know what the other person is thinking and, wow, we can be reaaaaaally wrong about it ;-)

Hahahahahah! If I may give an example... Can I? It happened recently with me, well, not with me, but there is a dog in the story. Does this count? hahahahaha! 

Last time I was in a park near my place I saw a couple with a dog. Such a cutie cutie thing, ahhhh!! It was a nice afternoon at the park, the sun was half shinning, half hiding, but anyways, it was a beautiful day. So, I noticed this couple and this dog. The man was shouting at the dog "Harbie, it's here, Harbie! It's here". (I don't remember if the dog was called Harbie, ok?) so the man was calling the dog and pointing at the ball near him to show to the dog where the ball was, while the dog was walking in another direction.

The man kept on "Harbie, the ball is here, look, look, Harbie! Here!". The dog walked further and further away, and sometimes walked a bit back, sniffing here and sniffing there, with his ears up, coming a little back but still sniffing and looking away, minding his own business, sometimes looking back at his owner like "Why are you yelling?!" 

Oke oke... So, here is the big question: Do you guys really think that the dog didn't know where the ball was? :D Honestly... Just to tell you, the ball was very near him, but do you think he wasn't aware of that?? LOL. Smart dog... he took his own time doing his own thing, living life as if there was no tomorrow hahahahaha. But hey, the owner thought that the dog didn't know where the ball was. But the dog, just wanted to be his own boss at that moment. He wanted to do his own thing: "Come on guys.... Leave me alone for a second, will you? Keep thinking I am that stupid and that I don't know where the ball is... I just want to find out what's with this little bush right up here..."

Oke, so you are probably thinking now that I am overthinking and that actually that dog didn't indeed know where the ball was and was lost... That is a possibility. Would this be true? We would need to ask the dog, but hey.. Maybe he would not share his little secret, or else he will lose his precious time next time... So, leave it ;-)

But ok... Back to what I was saying, now after the dog illustration, (hahaha love pets!) What we're thinking can be so wrong sometimes while dealing with other people, friends, colleagues, acquaintances, we can be way way off! So, put yourself together and don't rely on your own understanding about things (Proverbs 3:5). The truth will eventually come to the surface so don't assume you know all about it and then make conclusions, you may be completely wrong about it. 

I am pro choice: ELEVATOR!

Recently I was in a friend's house and went out for a run. When I returned I called the elevator and got in and there was this man inside. He saw I was sweating and was just doing exercises and he quickly said to me: "Well, taking the stairs would be also another good exercise". Hahahaha.... I said to him: "Oh really? Well, I have no idea how I get to the stairs, I am visiting my friend and I never took the stairs, I even have no idea how. Always when I visit her I take the elevator, I have no idea how to get to the stairs". He then said: "Oh oh, well, you need a key for that, you can't get the stairs without a key. It's not possible." After this he was a bit ashamed of his own comment... hehehehe!!!

But okay, and if I did have a key?! Can I take the ELEVATOR people?!! Can I just take the elevator, please??? Can I just choose?

:D

Freedom of choice: I AM PRO ELEVATORS !

No statement, just be!

It's interesting to pay attention to people's behavior sometimes.

Have you ever being nice to someone who is not nice to you and you continue being nice but somehow it will be like as if you would be making a statement?

In other words, the person acts rude (nothing personal) but you act nice back and because of that, somehow, it would look as if you are trying to make a point, but in fact, you are not and you are just acting normal, but because you are acting normal the other person may think you are trying to make a statement or trying to make them look bad because of their behavior?

Hahahahaha! It's just really funny to notice... Some people would not care at all or even notice that you just acted normal, but some people may adjust their behavior... And in fact, change....

Funny?

As a matter of fact, I do find it funny to socialize with different people. I think I can learn so much from this and I love the experience. Well, rude or not, just be who you are, respecting people is obviously a must. We are allowed to be cranky, moody and show emotions, as long as we care for each other; we are in a society and people matter. No statement, just be! 

2015 is still here...

It's the most wonderful time, of the year...

Yeah! Here we are again folks. It's almost Christmas!

The year has basically packed its bags and is ready to leave...

Think about what you have done this year.

Think about the good things you had.

Don't focus on what you did not do (unless you are planning to do it next year).

Just enjoy and cherish the good moments and lessons you learned.

Enjoy November, it's still here and enjoy 2015, it still did not leave yet

;-)

Happy November!

Monday feeling

What's up with Monday feelings?
Anyone...?
Anyone...?

Sometimes I wake up feeling like I am going to start doing lots and lots of things... Cleaning, ironing, dusting, organizing shelves, donating old stuff, lots of activities... Even like painting a room of something... Hahahaha

I wonder if this is a normal Monday feeling...

:/

Rain, let it rain!

These days have been quite warm in Brasília and we have that feeling like as if we were living in the middle of the desert, far away from the sea... oh wait, that is actually it :D We are far away from the sea and Brasília is often compared to the desert!

But we do have a lake here, it's called Paranoá. It's a very charming place. We can go there and there are some restaurants and kiosks selling coconut water and ice cream. This is our brasiliense pride, our "beach".

Often people complain about the weather. It happens everywhere, all around the world. When it's too cold people complain. When it's too hot, people complain. When it's summer time (the clock goes 1 hour forward) people complain, clock goes back, people complain. And so on... Whatever happens, people will always complain.

Now with the hot weather, what can we say? We want rain! "Let it rain please, God". But I guess we are right this time ;-) It's been too long without a drop of rain and this year is unusually dry. So now our hopes for rain are legitimate. We need rain! It's coming... It will rain today they said on the News... However... What will happen after it starts raining a lot? That's right... People will complain... But you know what? Who cares, let it rain... Come on! :D

Some girls get it all wrong

Ok everybody knows that men are different than women. That is a fact, not a story made up by someone who wishes to say that men are superior or that women are the real bosses.
Nope.
And I don't even want to spend time discussing such arguments, cause they are pretty much useless anyway. Not worth the time.

My point is: women sometimes can get it all wrong. Now you may ask why, why? Because we want to understand everything and we think we know everything and that we are in control of everything. Besides that, we think that men need to understand us. We expect men to do what we want them to do. But they can't understand us completely, he will be your partner, but don't try to make him understand you! He won't.
It's not that he doesn't want it, trust me, he wishes he could! But he is not capable of understanding fully what you go through.

That is the reason why we should have great female friends. We girls speak the same language, we understand each other, we are from Venus! Hahaha (tell if you did read that book: "Men are from Mars, women are from Venus". If you didn't, I strongly recommend! In this book, the author will go through many of our differences (men and women) and obviously nobody is exactly like the other, but the facts are there, it's science. We are different.

Well, if we are different why do you, girl, expect that your partner will understand you? That he will do exactly what you would expect him to? He won't be able to, because he is not supposed to. He is your partner, and he will be there to help and complete the part which you are not able to do it, and you will do the same in his life. He will assist, you both will be two people merged into one.

Now what truly upsets me is that girls are so often competing with each other, being jealous or avoiding friendship with girls when they are in a relationship. This is a very bad decision. Once you are in a relationship, you are not supposed to make that one person your center, NO! And God forbid you date someone who tries to make you their center, NO, that is a big NO NO! Run, run, run far away from him!

Back to the problem: girls compete instead of helping each other. Being competitive is not a sign of being great, I am sorry girls, but that's a sign of weakness. Why would you ever consider competing? What do you think you are doing? How can people who are unique compete to one another? That is just not possible!
Instead of competing, feeling bad about something that you think (inside your own small head) that you should have, be happy for who you are. Be happy for what you have, be happy and try to be the person you know you can be (by improving something you think it's important, by doing something nice to and for yourself) think about it.

Being happy about someone else's success is a sign of maturity. You can only know you are mature when you finally know who you are and know your place in life. Just think about this. Cultivate your friendships, don't make any man your center, nobody takes that place in your life except God. Do that girl. Be mature. Be a friend to someone who needs you. Get it all right, from now on... Be who God designed you to be! What do you say?