And now? Have to wait... 15 minutes?!

Sometimes we tend to be quite negative about waiting for things to happen. We live in a society that wants things now, and not just now, it has to be at the speed of a click. Have you noticed? We begin to feel uncomfortable when there is a delay and we HAVE TO WAIT. For instance, when we are going to get a train and suddenly we see the expected arrival time with a delay "+ 15 minutes delay". We can hear people sighing already. "Pfff.... delayed! 15 minutes??! Unbelievable!" :D - People, come on, spend some time in Brazil, you will know what delay looks and feels like - But ok, I understand them, no judgements here.

The thing is, not everything happens in our time and we need to deal with that. We want things now. We want them to happen so we tend to find it very hard to wait or we may even take actions which we might regret just because we could not wait a bit longer. The fact we need to wait forces us to be in control of ourselves. Our mind will go planning alternative routes or maybe just feeling miserable while waiting and this should be different... Don't you think? Would you want to feel miserable every time you don't get what you want it at the time you want it. Life is full of surprises, if we need to wait for something, why not change your attitude to adapt to that. How do you see this situation now? How do you deal with it (in your mind and with your emotions?).

Have to wait? Take a cup of coffee (tea, - insert favourite drink). Enjoy the view, see if there are birds around? Maybe something interesting to see? Someone looks friendly? Have a chit-chat, do something while waiting. Maybe you won't even notice that 15 minutes just flies by... And life, real life, goes with it. So make it worth it. ;-)

Who are those people?

I've been going to the park and I noticed some strange people there sometimes. I don't know exactly how this happened and where they came from... The weather was quite good, sunny and then I noticed that some people were sitting on the grass, others on the benches talking (facing each other?!). There were a few playing some kind of game, I suppose? On the grass! All that and, believe me, they were not even holding their phones. WEIRD! They seemed happy, which I thought it was crazy, how was that possible... How can it be, no phone? Very weird people, not normal at all... Who are they?
:D

The running code

Facial expression as part of body language is certainly a universal language. Of course considering differences of culture here and there we may agree that certain things are internationally recognized and accepted. Example: you pass by someone, look at them and smile. That is a friendly gesture. Everybody gets it. Also, if you would be really angry and feel annoyed by somebody, you could be very clear about it, probably by many different ways (some people can be really good at this) hehehehe, but well, the other person usually gets it. You may be in a totally different country with a different language but you will understand each other.

Interesting enough, I am not sure if you ever heard of it, but, there is a running code. Yes, a running code. The running code is a very used code among runners/joggers. Perhaps you may not be part of this specific group, hence, your confused face right now. But hey... It exists. It's there. It's quite common among us. The code is what makes us unique. The code brings us together. The code pushes us further. Yep.. The running code!

When you are running and you see someone also running in your direction you get prepared to use the code. In fact, there are different types of the code. Some just use the eyebrows (the simple code), others use the wave - hand up or waving (the friendly code), some prefer the smile (the sympathetic code) and a few would use the victory sign (the amicable encouraging code), this one is my favorite, personally.

Well.. Now you know about the code, the running code. I tell you, it's universal. No matter where your sneakers would bring you, the code will be applicable. Make sure you make use of it ;-)

What is Casual about Friday? ;-)

The concept of "Casual Friday" is very common in formal companies. Employees wear suits and formal clothes from Monday to Thursday and then Friday comes. Some companies may be more strict and they are not really into the Casual Friday thing. And yet, for other companies, everyday is Casual Friday :D.

As a matter of fact, everything you do everyday will become routine, habitual. But once there is something different, somehow, this thing becomes suddenly special. That's how it goes: you dress up the whole week, wearing a suit, skirt, high heels and then you get used to it. There is nothing new about it. But Friday it's the day you get to wear something normal, regular and you can be comfortable wearing just simple clothes.

You are the whole week wearing your formal clothes and suddenly you find yourself building up a feeling towards Friday: WOW, it's Casual Friday so I will wear something normal. But, in this case, the regular and normal becomes special and you get to wear those nice comfy clothes you dream about all week... Isn't this just cool? Casual Friday is actually the most special day of the week and you are wearing jeans.... Awesome! Gotta LOVE Friday! It's a special day people! The most special DAY!
But ok... Is Friday, really casual then ... ? ;-)

Just 3 more times...

You know what they say: "No pain, no gain". It's very common to find this sentence on facebook or instagram motivational posts and it's usually associated with physical exercises. True. No pain, no gain. If you don't apply yourself, go for it and make sacrifices you will see no results.

A friend of mine said her trainer would tell her: "Whenever you feel like you can't do anything anymore, whenever you are feeling like you are done and that you can't even move anymore: just do it 3 more times. If you can do that, go beyond your pain... Then you will see results". 

Wow... "Do it 3 more times"...  It sounds really hard. Can you imagine? You think you can't do it anymore but then you just do it. Just go for it... Just 3 more times.

It's quite convenient to just settle for what's easy. We are made for pleasure. Our body loves the comfort zone. We love enjoyable things, we always avoid pain. This is a mind set. If you are used to doing certain things, you would naturally go for the easy one; you will prefer to do what you've being doing. But once you go beyond that comfort zone you may reach a new threshold. You would have overcome your old you.

Isn't that a good feeling when you see yourself in a new level? When you have that feeling of accomplishment? Funny, cause this isn't only about exercises. I think the same principle can be applied for basically anything else in your life: a difficult task at work, a challenging situation, a fear you may have of doing something and so on...

With each new step, conquest or victory there is a price to be paid for it. A price, meaning it will cost you something. Great things in life usually don't come to you without any effort. You need to pay the price. You need to take the risks.Whatever you may go through, whether it be exercises in the gym or a very demanding job role, a social challenge  forcing you to face your fears, go for it and do it. Think about the results;  it will be hard, it may be difficult, perhaps you can't move... but just remember: do it 3 more times. 

Bye now, take care!

Recently I moved to this place which, by the way, 5 years ago, I was very nearby looking for an apartment... Funny how life goes. I still remember the day I parked the car near the park and I was sitting on this bench and thinking how strangely home I felt. I don't know why, but it just felt like home that day, it was a day somewhere between June and October 2011... Anyways, now I am living near this place. Really nice!

So today I was just leaving the door when I heard my neighbor arriving at his apartment next to mine and I waited for him to come upstairs to introduce myself. This was the first time I saw him. So far I just heard footsteps and now I could see his face hahaha. So I introduced myself and ... (I don't remember his name now, jeezz... :P But well, I doubt he remembers mine either! ;-) hehehe ) but oke, we had a little chit chat. The chit chat people!!! Neighbors being neighbors! Yep! He is from Germany but lives here for more than 10 years.

The thing about the chit chat is that, well, sometimes we may get these awkward silences or pauses or we may not know how to end the conversations, specially when you don't know the other person very well, of course, it's much different when you know each other, but well... Anyways... I sometimes need to learn to be comfortable with silence or just say something normal like normal people say such as: "Nice meeting you, bye now!". "Hey, have a nice evening, take care now!" But no... no, I, of course, had to say: "Oh, ok! Well, if you need anything, just let me know". I will repeat that: "If you need anything, just let me know".... Do you copy that?! HAHAHA!  huh? yep... So I paused... I thought to myself: "What did I just say?" :D

Am I hearing myself now? "If you need anything, let me know". Do I really mean that? Do we hear ourselves sometimes? Now all of a sudden I am saying that if he needs something he can let me know. Hahahaha! Of course it may sound strange, but the bottom line was that I am there and in case he would need something, just being friendly, showing some neighborly support and all. Of course, we are living on this planet for a reason besides working, paying taxes, eating and doing our stuff. We are people and by that I mean human beings with feelings and hearts and we care.

But this statement is not totally true... Cause, it got me thinking, on the other hand, if he would need chocolate? If he would need MY CHOCOLATE? Aaaahhhhhh my friend.... I am terribly sorry! I am Sooooo sorry for ya! He would better keep his own at home cause or else, I can't help you, dear neighbor! Bye now! Bye... Take care now!

Are you really sure you really know?

Sometimes we have an idea about something and we think that this thought is so true that it's irrefutable. We think this thought it's the reality and that's why the other person or other people also think the same about it. In other words, we create a "truism". That thought is so true that you assume the other person thinks the exact same thing about it. The problem is, it can be tricky if we are stuck in this "reality" if that is not in fact reality, don't you agree? If we are wrong? Have you ever thought about it? That you can be wrong? :D

Sometimes we think we know what the other person is thinking and, wow, we can be reaaaaaally wrong about it ;-)

Hahahahahah! If I may give an example... Can I? It happened recently with me, well, not with me, but there is a dog in the story. Does this count? hahahahaha! 

Last time I was in a park near my place I saw a couple with a dog. Such a cutie cutie thing, ahhhh!! It was a nice afternoon at the park, the sun was half shinning, half hiding, but anyways, it was a beautiful day. So, I noticed this couple and this dog. The man was shouting at the dog "Harbie, it's here, Harbie! It's here". (I don't remember if the dog was called Harbie, ok?) so the man was calling the dog and pointing at the ball near him to show to the dog where the ball was, while the dog was walking in another direction.

The man kept on "Harbie, the ball is here, look, look, Harbie! Here!". The dog walked further and further away, and sometimes walked a bit back, sniffing here and sniffing there, with his ears up, coming a little back but still sniffing and looking away, minding his own business, sometimes looking back at his owner like "Why are you yelling?!" 

Oke oke... So, here is the big question: Do you guys really think that the dog didn't know where the ball was? :D Honestly... Just to tell you, the ball was very near him, but do you think he wasn't aware of that?? LOL. Smart dog... he took his own time doing his own thing, living life as if there was no tomorrow hahahahaha. But hey, the owner thought that the dog didn't know where the ball was. But the dog, just wanted to be his own boss at that moment. He wanted to do his own thing: "Come on guys.... Leave me alone for a second, will you? Keep thinking I am that stupid and that I don't know where the ball is... I just want to find out what's with this little bush right up here..."

Oke, so you are probably thinking now that I am overthinking and that actually that dog didn't indeed know where the ball was and was lost... That is a possibility. Would this be true? We would need to ask the dog, but hey.. Maybe he would not share his little secret, or else he will lose his precious time next time... So, leave it ;-)

But ok... Back to what I was saying, now after the dog illustration, (hahaha love pets!) What we're thinking can be so wrong sometimes while dealing with other people, friends, colleagues, acquaintances, we can be way way off! So, put yourself together and don't rely on your own understanding about things (Proverbs 3:5). The truth will eventually come to the surface so don't assume you know all about it and then make conclusions, you may be completely wrong about it. 

I am pro choice: ELEVATOR!

Recently I was in a friend's house and went out for a run. When I returned I called the elevator and got in and there was this man inside. He saw I was sweating and was just doing exercises and he quickly said to me: "Well, taking the stairs would be also another good exercise". Hahahaha.... I said to him: "Oh really? Well, I have no idea how I get to the stairs, I am visiting my friend and I never took the stairs, I even have no idea how. Always when I visit her I take the elevator, I have no idea how to get to the stairs". He then said: "Oh oh, well, you need a key for that, you can't get the stairs without a key. It's not possible." After this he was a bit ashamed of his own comment... hehehehe!!!

But okay, and if I did have a key?! Can I take the ELEVATOR people?!! Can I just take the elevator, please??? Can I just choose?

:D

Freedom of choice: I AM PRO ELEVATORS !

No statement, just be!

It's interesting to pay attention to people's behavior sometimes.

Have you ever being nice to someone who is not nice to you and you continue being nice but somehow it will be like as if you would be making a statement?

In other words, the person acts rude (nothing personal) but you act nice back and because of that, somehow, it would look as if you are trying to make a point, but in fact, you are not and you are just acting normal, but because you are acting normal the other person may think you are trying to make a statement or trying to make them look bad because of their behavior?

Hahahahaha! It's just really funny to notice... Some people would not care at all or even notice that you just acted normal, but some people may adjust their behavior... And in fact, change....

Funny?

As a matter of fact, I do find it funny to socialize with different people. I think I can learn so much from this and I love the experience. Well, rude or not, just be who you are, respecting people is obviously a must. We are allowed to be cranky, moody and show emotions, as long as we care for each other; we are in a society and people matter. No statement, just be!